As we continue our journey through life, it’s often the small gestures that remind us how impactful our connections with others can be. Today, I want to take a moment to highlight someone who made a lasting impression on me this past year – my friend and fellow water polo referee, Andrew Gates.

Andrew and I have whistled at countless events together, including the National Junior Olympics, WWPA Championships, and various other water polo tournaments across the country. Over the years, I’ve come to know Andrew not just as a referee but as someone who holds himself to the highest standards—both on and off the pool deck.

In July 2024, while we were in Dallas for an event, Andrew took time out of his day to pull me aside. In the middle of everything going on around us, he noticed something was off and made a point to check in on me. We didn’t dive deep into a heavy conversation, but his simple act of care and concern was enough to make me feel seen and heard at a time when I needed it. You see, I had been dealing with some pretty rough challenges – a knee injury and the mental health struggles that came along with it. Andrew’s small but impactful gesture made all the difference, reminding me of the value of those around me.

For those who don’t know, Andrew spent years as a dedicated teacher before he retired. His mission was to help kids reach their fullest potential, often pushing them beyond their comfort zone with high expectations. His belief in those he taught went beyond just making them good students; he wanted them to grow into the best version of themselves. That same mindset of wanting people to excel, not just meet expectations, is something I’ve seen him apply to everyone around him, including the referees he works with and the athletes in the pool.

Currently, Andrew serves as the SCIAC men's coordinator of water polo officials, where he assigns, mentors, and evaluates collegiate referees. In this role, he is committed to the growth and success of others, using his experience to guide new referees through the challenges of officiating at the collegiate level. He’s not only a mentor but also a source of constant support, always pushing those under his guidance to strive for excellence.

It’s easy to overlook moments like the one we had in Dallas, but they matter. Andrew’s gesture was a reminder that even small actions can have a big impact. They remind us of the strength in community and how much of an influence we can have by simply being present for each other.

So, as we go about our week, let’s all take a moment to acknowledge those around us. Sometimes, the smallest gesture can make the biggest difference.